Two Questions
Before we begin...
If we are to work together, two questions need honest answers.
Not polite answers. Not hopeful answers. Honest ones.
Question 1: Are you taking a break, or are you done?
Is this pause:
- a temporary interruption before returning to the same patterns,
- or a genuine decision to stop?
There is no judgment in this question. But clarity matters.
If you are taking a break, other forms of support may be more appropriate.
If you are done, we can work together.
Question 2: Has your ego surrendered to your true self?
Another way to ask this:
→ Have you stopped deceiving yourself?
- Do you still believe your own rationalisations?
- Or have you reached the point where you can see the pattern clearly, even when it is uncomfortable?
This is not about moral purity. It is about functional honesty– the kind that allows real change.
Why these questions?
I could phrase this more gently. But softening the language does not change the underlying reality:
- if self‑deception is still active, intervention will not work,
- and if the decision to stop is not yet real, we will waste each other's time.
These are not tests. They are orientation points.
A principle worth remembering
Friedrich Nietzsche wrote:
→ "Where my honesty ends, I am blind and also want to be blind. ..."
"Where I want to know, however, there want I also to be honest—namely, severe, rigorous, restricted, cruel, and inexorable"
That sentence captures something essential:
- we all have areas where we do not yet want to see clearly,
- and that is fine – until it stops being fine.
The question is: Are you ready to see?
If yes, we can work together.
If not yet, that is also legitimate – but then other paths may serve you better for now.
